My optical age was mid-twenty but I am getting 41 in August. And I'm still single, no kids and as it seems the best I can make is to get a good man who's not afraid of chronic ill wives. Kids are passé not only because the chemo threw me into the menopause and at the moment it even seems that my hair grows back in grey!
I'm afraid I won't make it to get a good man, because the ones I like are wether happily married or uninterested in women older than 40 (because they are under 40) or interested in "more attractive" women. And those who might be interested in me are just not my taste. And at the moment my taste isn't that naive anymore...he does not have to look like Johnny Depp or like young Peter Gabriel anymore. But the "big teddybears" that are still free are in Germany mostly not only looking like brickies. I had a chubby bloke 10 years ago but he was just too much a redneck. I'm afraid Guy Garvey is the only angel in a bear's body...
I better stop ranting, or I get the blues...

Every granny says: "Every Jack finds his Jill"

Hey TL. Sorry to hear that.I'm sure you'll find someone eventually. I only met Mrs H when I was in my mid-30s. Neither of us had been married before so it can still happen. It happened when I'd given up looking. I probably came across as more relaxed.

TamedLamia wrote:

Every granny says: "Every Jack finds his Jill"

Or, in the words of Kate Bush 'Every old sock meets an old shoe'

I'm 45 going on 11.........or so Mrs H keeps telling me. [/quote]

That sounds like my 'boyfriend'. It will put a on his face.

I think that you will meet someone when you least expect it - I know it's been said before, but it's true.

I'm thinking it's "pissing myself laughing"...I could be wrong though. Maybe it's Hotblack's way of telling us he's "pretty much stud-like", or something...

Like it!

Hey, we maybe don't have enough LoaCA (Ladies of a Certain Age) yet, but I think we should get ourselves a patron saint of the thread. I am trying to think of suitable candidates...not Madonna, because she's skanky. But somebody who is a shining example of getting better with age. Any ideas?

HOW'S ABOUT ABOUT

Susan Sarandon - born 1946

I don't know about you but, I relish being in my 40's. On my 40th birthday I had what I can only discribe as an epihany. My hubby gave me what he thought was a great pressie and I hated it! He booked me a spa session at a local fancy hotel. I spent 5 hours, on my own, bored out of my skull. All I wanted to do was to spend some time with my family and our new puppy. Instead, I was miserable.
It was then that I decided that I'd never rely on anyone else to fulfill my dreams and I haven't looked back since. I've always wanted to earn a living as an artist and 6 months ago, I gave up a job I hated so I could devote more time to that goal. I don't expect I'll end up as the next Picasso or Turner Prize winner but it is more fulfilling than working in a shop.
I've never been what you would describe as a "looker" but now that I'm older, it doesn't matter so much. In fact, some of my old class mates look worse than me and that is soo satisfying!
My children are growing up and now it's me time for a change.
Can I suggest Annie Lennox as our patron saint?

Good to have another member.

This is my crunch year like you Lesley. Second time I've done this. Walked out of a miserable marriage after 20 years and never looked back. Now I'm about to leave my job (much as I love it - but hate the management role) . Planning to spend more time on my two hobbies - glass and stone.